tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post5839927239889839004..comments2023-10-26T03:26:53.959-07:00Comments on Suebob's Red Stapler: I want to write this. I don't want to write this.SUEB0Bhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16301963922769609715noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-29059937903528060262010-09-22T11:08:54.901-07:002010-09-22T11:08:54.901-07:00A late comment to say that I have been thinking of...A late comment to say that I have been thinking of you and so sorry for your loss. A beautiful post, and so glad you continue sharing. < hugs >lizrizhttp://www.everydaygoddess.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-11436774748173313162010-09-09T15:36:07.811-07:002010-09-09T15:36:07.811-07:00Thank you for sharing...and do do do keep sharing....Thank you for sharing...and do do do keep sharing...KDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06602170011756124927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-80449976537753300672010-09-09T14:08:10.168-07:002010-09-09T14:08:10.168-07:00So sorry for your loss.So sorry for your loss.trinity67https://www.blogger.com/profile/07847419740974969871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-8327119911406632572010-09-09T10:02:15.914-07:002010-09-09T10:02:15.914-07:00Oh. I'm sorry to hear about your father. Sti...Oh. I'm sorry to hear about your father. Still trying to catch up with everyone. What a beautiful thing you did. I wish your father and your family peace and comfort.Peahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13731555073388642709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-23499706713449981442010-09-09T08:45:57.327-07:002010-09-09T08:45:57.327-07:00So sad and beautiful - that night will be a bitter...So sad and beautiful - that night will be a bittersweet memory for you to treasure as weird as that may sound.<br /><br />I am truly sorry for your loss.dianarepublichttp://www.dianarepublic.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-29183009026548696992010-09-08T22:50:25.267-07:002010-09-08T22:50:25.267-07:00There's a special thing in sitting with the dy...There's a special thing in sitting with the dying. It's one of the greatest things we ever do. I'm glad you had that time even as I'm sorry you needed it. <br /><br />I'm sorry for your loss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-90157909414429754182010-09-08T22:27:08.280-07:002010-09-08T22:27:08.280-07:00Sorry for your loss. You're right, you will al...Sorry for your loss. You're right, you will always have that night with your dad, and that is priceless.stinkypawhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04418558395508830375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-69950487828588827682010-09-08T12:36:40.108-07:002010-09-08T12:36:40.108-07:00Thanks for writing it. And thanks in advance if yo...Thanks for writing it. And thanks in advance if you write the rest.<br /><br />You took me right back to a lot of different hotel rooms and a lot of uncomfortable chairs. But in an important way. <br /><br />xoKizzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01957878512519527975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-63468125608834038582010-09-08T11:26:24.985-07:002010-09-08T11:26:24.985-07:00(PS -- I get the same angry tear shooting out of m...(PS -- I get the same angry tear shooting out of my face when I'm really angry. It is truly anoying to see how alarmed people get at the tears, but not at the anger that starts them.)joannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-26943693276886541722010-09-08T11:24:07.227-07:002010-09-08T11:24:07.227-07:00My condolences. It is hard to be the one to make ...My condolences. It is hard to be the one to make the decisions.... even when your parent has made their wishes clear. It is not easy to be the one signing off.<br /><br />You dealt with it the best possible way (by not slugging that doctor)....<br /><br />If it helps you at all to know....<br />I am proud of you.<br /><br />Yes, we have never met... but I am still proud of you... as your father would be.<br /><br />I wish you peace and comfort.joannenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-79931176127541604042010-09-08T08:28:14.108-07:002010-09-08T08:28:14.108-07:00I like what Meno said: what you did pretty much de...I like what Meno said: what you did pretty much defines love. We should all be so lucky to have someone be so in the moment with us when we pass. <br /><br />This part really touched me: "I felt like a giant marble statue towering over a field of broken glass. I have never felt so alone, or so grown up. I was doing a terrible, adult thing but I knew exactly what it had to be." My husband and his siblings had to make these terrible, adult decisions this year for their mother. It is hard...just hard. CarrieCarrie (in MN)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-84566230838951074932010-09-07T12:44:22.926-07:002010-09-07T12:44:22.926-07:00I had a night like that with my grandmother, sort ...I had a night like that with my grandmother, sort of. I had flown in the night before and stayed with my sister. I had stayed late the nursing home that evening to see if my mother wanted anything. I was waiting for my sister to get off shift (she worked there part time). The weather worsened. I worried that driving home wasn't safe. So I stayed, as did my sister, my mother and my aunt. It was a special night, one that I hold in my heart. <br /><br />(I've been offline all weekend. Coincidentally you published this on what would have been my grandmother's birthday.)sassymonkeyhttp://sassymonkey.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-40501269530079740762010-09-07T11:43:20.808-07:002010-09-07T11:43:20.808-07:00I struggle with hanging out with my pants down. B...I struggle with hanging out with my pants down. But times like these, when you write even the minimum of the sorrow you endure, the good in people becomes apparent. And I love that. I love the glimpse into the kindness that still lurks in the hearts of the populace. <br /><br />I'm glad and proud of you for making the choices you knew were right. Though difficult, you will always be able to know it was his wish. I have so often wished that any language held words to truly bolster shattered hearts, but even poetry cannot touch that darkness. Time is the only ally I believe. In lieu of the time I cannot send, I offer love and support. I have long admired you Suebob. You are a rock and wonderful example of someone who lives the life they believe in.Lynneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08255266354171825474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-31283606647195124372010-09-07T07:06:52.307-07:002010-09-07T07:06:52.307-07:00I hope you'll write the rest. It feels wrong t...I hope you'll write the rest. It feels wrong to say it's a lovely story, because dying is anything but, but it's so much a story of the love you and your folks share, and THAT is so marvelous. <br /><br />And I love that your mom told you not to hurry. I'm guessing your dad would've added "I'm fine, don't bother" if he could've. ;)Mirhttp://wouldashoulda.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-64753651795424746082010-09-06T18:49:46.693-07:002010-09-06T18:49:46.693-07:00I somehow found my way to your blog tonight for th...I somehow found my way to your blog tonight for the first time. You'll be in my prayers. I agree with the reader who wrote that what you did was love. Best wishes to you for the days ahead, and peace for your whole family.Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04587080107116858971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-74130154631763697182010-09-06T16:46:44.201-07:002010-09-06T16:46:44.201-07:00Love and light to you, my friend.Love and light to you, my friend.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308665452575511461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-17020134071966412682010-09-06T16:45:48.880-07:002010-09-06T16:45:48.880-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308665452575511461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-18634580769960640722010-09-05T21:02:32.669-07:002010-09-05T21:02:32.669-07:00That made me think a lot of things, the only relev...That made me think a lot of things, the only relevant one is: thank you for sharing that experience.nonlineargirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05414675024101618604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-327728913030436032010-09-05T19:32:17.634-07:002010-09-05T19:32:17.634-07:00I was holding my breath as I read this.
I don'...I was holding my breath as I read this.<br /><br />I don't know why I needed to tell you that, but I did.Sarah, Goon Squad Sarahhttp://sarahandthegoonsquad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-90377723560655481112010-09-05T18:41:47.306-07:002010-09-05T18:41:47.306-07:00oh suebob.
this was beautiful.
i'm sorry tha...oh suebob.<br /><br />this was beautiful.<br /><br />i'm sorry that you're hurting, and i'm sorry if your family is giving you further grief.<br /><br />i remember when my dad's mom was sick and in the hospital, and we knew the end was near. i had some stupid song stuck in my head, and something happened that gave me the giggles and i was mortified that i was so inappropriate. <br /><br />but grief is exhausting, and saps your strength and you (well, I anyway) need the humor and the sense of the ridiculous to shore yourself up for the next horrible thing.<br /><br />so, whatever gets you thru the day!Erickahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02624706433945857931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-79154180965806283632010-09-05T12:50:48.342-07:002010-09-05T12:50:48.342-07:00I'm crying now ~ my daddy died last October 20...I'm crying now ~ my daddy died last October 20 ~ and my heart breaks for your loss. <br /><br />(I envy you [a little, and only for] those hours you got to spend with your dad, alone, and wish that I had had that chance....)<br /><br />I understand why your family might be reticent about your life lived out loud, but I'm so glad you live it that way. You always make me think and often make me laugh aloud. Thank you for continuing to write.Kimhttp://methinks.blogger.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-3129686347428044952010-09-05T10:25:52.762-07:002010-09-05T10:25:52.762-07:00I have been away and amm just now getting caught u...I have been away and amm just now getting caught up, so I apologize for being late to express my condolences oon the loss of your father. I am so sorry.<br /><br />I am sure your dad appreciated your bravery as you advocated for him and your completely unselfish act of love as you stayed with him throughout the night.<br /><br />Hugs and love to you.Nancyhttp://mommaamme.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-32569462660347694192010-09-05T09:36:08.038-07:002010-09-05T09:36:08.038-07:00As my aging father's health deteriorates this ...As my aging father's health deteriorates this post has particular relevance to me. I hope that I have the ability and the opportunity to be there for him in the way that you were for your dad. The process of dying should not have to be a lonely experience for the person making the exit. To have someone at their side, loving them and holding them through the journey is beautiful and blessed.Barnmavenhttp://www.barnmaven.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-40078314987240928962010-09-05T08:54:52.473-07:002010-09-05T08:54:52.473-07:00Such a beautiful tribute to your dad. I'm glad...Such a beautiful tribute to your dad. I'm glad you're able to keep writing about what really matters to you.Erika Jurneyhttp://blog.erikajurney.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18820173.post-49565294159516504632010-09-05T08:13:18.965-07:002010-09-05T08:13:18.965-07:00Thank you for posting this.
It's so humbling...Thank you for posting this. <br /><br />It's so humbling, this business of death, so totally unique and utterly common. <br /><br />This is a beautiful, earth-bound reflection. I hope writing and sharing it are both healing for you. Reading them is healing for me.TZThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01115184964695756281noreply@blogger.com