Suebob's Red Stapler: Growing up or not

12 May 2008

Growing up or not

When we were in our late 20's my friend Mike said "My ex-girlfriend wants to be friends."

I asked "What are you going to do?"

He said solemnly, "Oh, no, I can't. I'm not emotionally mature enough for that."

That made me laugh but I think of it often and use it occasionally. There are some things that it takes a long, long time to become grown up enough to do.

9 comments:

Piece of Work said...: I'm still not friends with any of my exes, and in fact, of the 3 major relationships in my life before I got married, there is only one that I have any interest in ever seeing again. Sadly, I have this feeling that he's just fine without me anywhere in his life. Guys that I dated more casually, those guys are easy to be friends with. But the ones that broke my heart? Not so much. Fortunately for me I live hundreds or thousands of miles away from them, so there's no chance of running into them.; 9:28 AM
Googling Goddess said...: It was actually very mature of him to realize that he wasn't mature enough to be a friend!

Yes, just because we are the age of a grown up doesn't mean we area always able to act like a grown up. I think being aware of that is the healthiest thing we can do though.; 9:51 AM
Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah said...: I wonder if I will ever be emotionally mature enough for something like that?; 10:32 AM
super des said...: At least he admitted it. My xbf flat out refuses to ever be my friend, but he would never admit why.

And that's just a good all-around excuse.; 11:23 AM
mar said...: does friends with benefits count as being friends with your ex? :\
yeah, i agree that it's mature of him to recognize he couldn't do it.; 1:01 PM
Anonymous said...: I don't think it's about maturity. i think that's just our instinct telling us that it's not a good idea for a reason. Probably not with EVERY case, but with most.; 1:07 PM
Glennis said...: Hah. I once ended up with one of my exes as my landlord!

He was a better landlord than he was a boyfriend!; 6:46 AM
Anonymous said...: I have remained in touch - in one form or another - with all but two of my past boyfriends.

My most recent ex is loaning me the money for first and security on a new house - that I will be living in with my new boyfriend (and most likely eventual husband). So, he's loaning me the money to start my new life. This is a man who I had to beg groceries from (to cook HIS meals!) while we were together. So, go figure.; 1:30 PM
mar said...: dude! you got caulk (ads)!; 11:20 AM